The Secret was my gateway drug into the world of manifestation. It’s an incredible book, and Rhonda Byrne’s did an excellent job with it. The idea was intoxicating to me…”Think about what you want, and it’s yours!”.
The idea that I could literally “think my way” to wealth was like hearing the greatest piece of music ever written. Music to my ears. I could sit and think about what I wanted all day long!
I started doing everything the book said. I was living in a garden level apartment in Niles, IL, sleeping on a mattress on the floor after my old shitty ikea bed frame broke, eating tuna and rice most nights for dinner, and then closing my eyes and imagining all the things I wanted in my life.
I also started devouring every other book on The Law of Attraction I could get my broke little hands on.
Did my life unfold into some magical, mansion-filled lifestyle of the rich and famous? Kind of. Sort of. Not really.
I started making YouTube videos, and I started my online business, and I DID start earning great money online. But here’s the catch…the law of attraction was only a very small part of how all of this happened.
To be honest with you, the results of The Law of Attraction were very very spotty for me. Pretty much NOTHING I ever visualized or wanted would come into my life. It almost seemed as if the opposite would come in.
“Give me a dream guy.” A handsome guy would ask me out, and take me to Wendy’s for dinner (true story).
“How about a brand new apartment with marble counters and a new stove”. My apartment flooded, and I had to stay at a hotel with marble counters and a nice stove (true story).
But most of the time when I’d visualize and focus on something, it wouldn’t happen. Like AT ALL.
That’s still the case today. For me, when I just sit and visualize without taking any action, NOTHING usually happens.
But here’s where I think the “Law of Attraction” truly helped me in my life. I got so sick and tired of thinking about the things I wanted in my life not happening, that I started sitting down and planning things out, and then taking ACTION on these things.
Now look, I won’t tell you that if you think about what you want all day it won’t come into your life in a magic plum of pink glitter. It looks like that happens for some people! However, I’m NOT one of those people, and there are plenty of other “bad manifesters” like me who could use some advice, so here it is…
Positive Thinking IS Important
If there’s one virtue of the Law of Attraction, it’s that it helps you to become aware of your thoughts. And the quality of your thoughts have a massive impact on your health, habits, and results.
And yes, your thoughts really DO change the level of energy that you vibrate at. And yes, when you’re thinking positively you really CAN see things with more clarity.
So, continue to focus your mind on where you want to go, and what you want to do in your life. But then make sure you follow all of that up with the key….
Action is the Engine of Manifestation
You must take guided actions to change your life.
Had I continued to sit on the couch of my little apartment in Niles, trying to think my way into a new life without taking any action, I’d probably still be in that apartment. The key was that I got so sick and tired of the lack of results that I started taking ACTION.
Should you spend time “visualizing” your future and desired outcomes? Sure! If you want. But make sure you follow through with the actions.
Manifestation Coaches & Teachers Are Lying
I love Rhonda Byrne, and all the manifestation teachers who give their teachings to the world. But they are all lying through their teeth when they say “All you need is to think and get yourself aligned vibrationally.”
You know what gets you aligned vibrationally? ACTION.
If every single one of them were honest, they would open the hood and show you how they REALLY make their money. And I’ll go ahead and do that for you now:
Every single one of the manifestation teachers who have ever existed had a small business, with a marketing blueprint, an offer, and something to sell. There is NOTHING wrong with any of this by the way. This is just straight up prosperous living.
If you want to be “abundant” in your life, you need to start a business independent of time, and you need to know how to market yourself.
Every single one of them has a free offer, free download, a paid offer, a series of books or videos on a YouTube channel, a social media presence, marketing funnels, and so on.
If Rhonda Byrne was 100% honest, she’d say something like “Ok, yesterday I got x amount of email opt-ins, and Y amount of sales on my virtual offerings, my marketing team wrote a blog post for my website, and they also posted something across all my social media platforms. This yielded me $X yesterday.”
See the image below. She has an excellent, thriving business.THAT is how she’s a millionaire. She is selling books, courses, films, e-books etc. She has a great marketing strategy. THAT is her ticket to manifesting an abundant life. Not just visualization. I’m sure the visualization helps, but it’s not the whole story!
Woo-Woo Meets Realistic
I am an intuitive who speaks with my spirit guides on a daily basis. I do channeled writing, pray to my angels, and speak directly with Jesus Christ on a regular basis. I’m about as woo-woo as they come.
That said, it’s very important to remember that we are spiritual beings having a HUMAN experience. As part of that human experience, we have certain laws that impact us. One of those is the law of cause and effect. AKA reaping what you sow. You can’t sow an apple seed and get an apricot tree. You can’t sit on a couch thinking about stuff, not take any action, and expect a six figure business to “manifest” in your life.
I suspect the Divine Beloved wants us all to experience our greatness. We couldn’t possibly understand our own power if we don’t take ACTION. If God just delivered our lustrous careers to us on a silver platter and we wouldn’t believe in our capabilities. Alternatively, if we wake up each day and traverse the mountains of our desires, we build the muscles we need to become what our heart desires.
When we take daily action, we get comfortable in front of a camera, we get better at the tech stuff, we become good writers, we grow into our greatness.
Guided Action is the New Manifestation as far as I’m concerned.
“But That One Person Did It!“
Sure. There are some power manifesters out there.
I also suspect some of those people have a very strong dharma, with a predestined path that they’re envisioning. These are things already on the way for them. It’s impossible to know for sure, but we can take a look at the evidence:
There are millions of people who read The Secret. And to be clear, I KNOW it can have a positive impact whether or now you actually manifest things. But of those millions of people, there are many who experience the stark reality that NO. You Do Not Always Get What You Think About.
Sometimes you might, and other times you won’t.
Relying on thoughts and visualization alone is a terrible game plan.
What I’m saying here is that when you have a very strong desire for something, and thinking about it doesn’t move the needle, it’s time to get moving and take action. That’s not God denying you of your desires. It’s God saying “You want to be a millionaire? Cool. Prove it. Show me with your actions.”
It would be a very toxic world if every single ego got every single thing it wanted. Instead, the checks and balances of the universe are divinely perfect. Action gives you the training ground to handle whatever it is you want to manifest. It’s great to want things, but it’s also very important to become the person who can handle those things.
We can take a look at the fact that 70% of lottery winners lose all their money within 5 years as an example of this. Many of those 70% also develop addictions to drugs and alcohol. Unearned achievements are very expensive. You end up paying one way or another.
Common Sense Manifestation Steps
To simplify all of this for you, and to help you truly succeed, here are the steps I recommend for making your dreams a reality:
- Sit down and write out every single thing you want to be, do, and have
2. Choose three of those things that you want to focus on for the next year. These three things should also be drivers for everything else on your list.
3. Get some sort of project management system like Click Up, Asana or a physical planner.
4. Chunk down your goals into tiny daily actions. Then start doing them.
5. Read your list daily
6. Have a meditation practice where you allow your mind to rest
7. Occasionally, bring to mind the things on your list, and the way they will feel when you attain them. Only do this step if you find it helpful. Skip this step if it brings up resistance.
8. Be mindful of your thoughts and beliefs, and watch your mind throughout the day. Keep it positive as often as possible.
9. When negatvitiy arises, surrender to that energy, and allow it to be fully felt to let it go. Don’t supress negative or painful emotions or thoughts. Simply notice, allow, and then release gently.
10 Asses the results of your efforts, adjust where you can, and surrender where you can’t
11. Give gratitude for the results you get and the progress you make, no matter how small or big it might seem.
Love,
Brenda
P.S. My new program “Zero to Six Figures” gives you the steps you need to start your online business, and take it to six figures. If you’ve been wanting to manifest a six figure business for yourself, the action steps in this program will help get you there.
